Too cute or over the top--drama princess

I wanted to know how to correct a learned behavior. I used to think it was so cute the Pbj cries over every little thing (even spilled milk). Like I said in the other post, Pbj is some what spoil rotten. She learned that she can get whatever she wants if she cries. If she demands it, she gets it. Well, I don't know if I am lacking more patience for her now that I have little Bree Bree. She seems to be jealous sometimes and sometimes it just seems that it is just her. For example, Pbj wants something that is in Bree Bree's hand she will grab it from Bree Bree. If we say Bree Bree is so cute when she does(fill in the blank), then immediately Pbj would ask "how about me mommy?" If my hubby is rocking Bree Bree to sleep, Pbj too wants to be rock to sleep. Don't get me wrong, Pbj loves Bree Bree to death. She cries in the mere mentioning of separating her and precious little Bree Bree. Pbj does seem like she is crying out for attention.
I asked her Pediatrician about what to do. She said that just to teach her how to trade with her younger sibling in regards to sharing toys. As far as her attention neediness, no answer there. She just said that she is jealous. I am desperately looking for answers on how to change her behavior. Recently, she can't bare to part from her daddy. What that means is that we all go to work with daddy. Yes, we would drop daddy at his work, then we would drive to where ever to rest then go back to see daddy for lunch then again to pick up daddy to go home. She also would cry more often now too. Sweet little Bree Bree is crying more often too but for her it is for another reason. I will touch base on this on another blog. But for Pbj she cries after she saw something or when Bree Bree tears something on a piece of paper that had something cute on it. When she was 1 years old I remember her watching a Kirby cartoon. Pbj cried because a big ugly octopus at a sheep. She kept crying bealaaa out the sheep (her way of saying spit out the sheep). It was so cute that even though I was comforting her to stop crying, I secretly wanted to hear her cry and talk some more. Now a days, I think it is a little over the top. She does not say bealaaa out the sheep anymore she just cries. Miss drama princess here does a lot of things over the top. Like if she wants a cookies she would say I can't let that cookie go, I dreamt about eating it, I can stop thinking about the taste of it, can I have one more pleaseeeeeeee. What gets my goat is that when she is doing her spelling or math and I correct her, she would go on a rage. Pbj hate it when someone does her work or correct her work when she is not done. The rage will not just stop with crying but with screaming, kicking and world war 3 it seems. It we joke with her like saying we going to go buy such and such for someone other than her, she would go on that same rage. The crying does not stop in ten minutes nor half an hour it seems like it goes on for hours on end. She is very grown up though, when she knows she is in trouble she saves us the trouble of putting her in the corner. She put herself there and do the count off herself. If she can't calm down, she would walk over to the kitchen island and grab a cup and fill it with cold water from the fridge to drink. Afterwards, she would walk over say sorry, give you a kiss on the forehead,cheeks, chin then lips. You would say "Wow what a sweetie pie-right?" No, she then cries again, and says but you don't love me because of such and such. Then, miss drama princess is back. If any one out there know how to correct this or have ideas feel free to comment it for me. I would thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Being thankful for all of God's Blessings

First let me start off by saying that I am not always happy. Quite the contrary, depression visits me at least once a month. I found out that the secret to being happy was not really a secret at all. All you have to do is be optimistic, be grateful, and thankful with what God has blessed you with. Have a positive attitude towards every obstacle you meet and every trial that you are put through, have faith and hope for a better future. This is very hard to do--as they say, "easier said than done". But, I learned that with practice and perseverance it becomes easier.
I will be the first to agree that most of the joy in my life is free, a blessing from God. I am thankful to be blessed with two smart and beautiful girls--PBJ who is five years old, and Bree Bree who is eight months old. Like most mothers, I love my daughters more than life itself. They are my world. And yes, like many mothers, I too have given up my career to be a stay-at-home mom. I love it but at times it does become frustrating being that my husband is the sole person bringing home the bacon.
We all know that with the real estate market going down the toilet, the price of oil sky rocketing, food and all other things going up in price doesn't help at all(by the way these are some of the elements or ingredients that help developed my depression). Although things might get stressful and pull me down many a time, I have faith that something wonderful is about to come. Like what my husband said," It is not how you begin but how you finish". I know in my heart that we will finish by beating our own expectations. Someone quipped that God never told us that life was going to be easy, but He did say that it is worth living. My husband told me that God will never give you more than what you can handle (apparently we can handle a lot!! :P). If I have to go through hard obstacles, why not face it positively. This Saturday, for example, we were laboriously driving for about an hour trying to find a parking spot at busy Clement street in SF. When we finally found one, guess what, someone cut us off and pulled in that very spot. Well, I'm sure the old me would have rolled down the window and showed him a birdie or two, yelling out a few choice four-letter words. But, as a mother with kids looking at me, I just drove another half hour to find another suitable place to park. I said to myself, "hmm maybe that gentleman (he was no gentleman) had to really go to the bathroom badly or he probably crapped in his pants already--ha ha." I asked myself, what if I did show him the birdie and add a few four-letter words to my kids' vocabulary? What difference would that have made? It would only elevate my stress, the guy reciprocating in kind with a few four-letter words of his own to my kids' vocab list, and my day would be filled with anger. It was better for me and him to just let it go. Did I forget about it? No! If I did I wouldn't be writing about it now. But, I learned to forgive and move on.
Forgiveness is another way to live a happy life. That too, my dear, is very very difficult to do. I don't know about you, but my husband and I both had experienced trauma, drama, and torture from our so-called family members. They belittled us, beat us, cheated us, frightened us, and yes at times tortured us to the point where we felt death would be preferable. I am more willing to forgive than my husband would be. I guess that is why he seems to be more stressed than I am. It could be that my nagging is what is giving him the stress though.
The other night, I asked my loving husband to take out the trash. I being a mother (I use this as my defense a lot, hey if it works why not use it right? ha ha), I have little patience and am forgetful (only things I need to remember). I reminded him to take out the trash every second (from his point of view), but to me it felt like days. In truth it was minutes--heh heh. Before I used to ask my husband to come see something (while he is busy doing his stuff) and he would say give me a minute, but he learned fast--ha ha. Now, when I asked my sweetie hubby to do something, majority of the time he does it instantly. He has patience, I have very little. Patience, that is another trait or we need in order to be happy in life.
My husband said that we act like children when it comes to wanting things. We pray and ask God for something and we want it done yesterday. But, He is not our genie, He is our God and Father. When our daughter would want something, she has to have it now




. "Mommy I want to go to Disneyland", she would say. (BTW would you like to help donate to this fund?). I tell her (like how God tells us),"Be patient. Mommy and Daddy have to save money for it." And did not someone say that all good things comes to those who are patient? To be honest, I really lack patience. But, I am learning. I have to have patience to home school my five year old. She tests it every second of the day, it seems.
This reminds me of the time I saw the episode about the movie/book called Secret featured on Oprah. There was a group of people conversing on the topic of the law of attraction and how the world is your oyster--actually a genie waiting to grant your every command/wish. Like I said earlier, I don't believe that there is a genie out there granting wishes, but rather there is our Father God who blesses as He wills. I believe for personal development and self-help purposes that positive thinking will draw positive results. What I mean by this is that, if we have self-limiting/ self-destroying beliefs we will make a reality of it ourselves (and vice versa). I know if I tell myself I will be a millionaire in one years, then I will be. Not because I said it and it is going to just happen for me because I made the wish. Rather, because I said it, made plans for it, and will work towards it. There are steps involved, and you need to follow through. If you have a great desire why not make a plan to achieve it? Have your mind set to go for the goal! What is there to lose? No pain no gain. Not to mention, think about the gains, and keep your eyes on the prize. Life is short and unpredictable, so why not make it worth your while. Then again, life is the longest thing you will ever do, so therefore, work hard yet play just as hard. Besides, if you are doing what you love then it is all play, baby. For some of you, it may not be financial wealth as a goal, but the riches of knowledge and wisdom, or whatever it may be.
Someone told me that if you are rich you will be happy. Well, that is totally not true. Look at all those washed out, has-been, burned out celebrities and major personalities. Britney, oh my gosh where do I begin and Owen Wilson. They are more filthy rich than most people who admire them, yet they are not happy. Then again, my husband said to me we are rich(of course when he said this I choked and laughed so hard I fell off the chair). He then continued (after helping me up) to say that we are rich with God's blessings. A lot of people have riches (cold hard cash) and others have the true riches (the favor of the Lord, love and the necessities/needs). I joked, and asked, "May I choose which category to fall into?" He countered with a mean face and said "NO" and continued on saying how we have all that we need, and some stuff we want as well.
In closing, I highly believe that life is worth living. If not for me for my sweet little precious babies, my ever so caring and faithful husband, my mingling parents oops I mean loving parents heh heh, my two beautiful and charming sisters, and my little sweetie niece, and last but not least for God.