Christmas and New Year for reconnecting friendship

What I noticed is that I don’t talk to or hang out with my friends and other family members as often as I did before. My world and environments gets so clutter with so many chores that I simply don’t have time for anything else. I would forget to make a simple phone call or return one and that is what hurts relationships or cause the connection to weaken. Life goes on and so does people around us. The world is always changing and even when we are not we are changing as well. Just like dreams, sometimes we wake up and not realized or remember that we had a dream. But in truth we did have a dream. Actually we have many dreams at night. If we were in REM stage we would remember our dreams more vividly than in any other stages of our dreams.
What I mean is that even when we don’t realize that we are hurting our connection or relationships with our friends and families we are. Things that weaken relationships are things like not returning phone calls or not calling. Examples are like not calling to wish someone a happy birthday, anniversary, or a joyful holiday. We hurt others when we don’t do anything, because sometimes non-actions are more hurtful than the action ones. I know when my in laws didn’t call my daughter to wish her a happy birthday or even to drop an email, I was hurt. That being that my daughter is their first and was their only grandchild. They only have two grandchildren and they are both from me. What I am saying is that we need to take advantage of holidays as well as events to reconnect our relationships. For birthdays we call to show and tell them we care and love them. For holidays such as Christmas and New Years we call them to show them we love and care for them as well as send them our wish.
I have family members who are overseas, out of state, and out of the city and I don’t have to opportunity to connect with them the way I would want to. So, on Christmas and New Years I take advantage of these holidays to call and catch up with them and reconnect and build a stronger bond with them. I learned through the years that things are not important but people are. We have to put value on our love ones and use more of our time and effort in them rather than on chores and work. Things can be made and they come and go very fast but as for love ones and people once you made a good loving bond with them they will be forever close to you. But please don’t get me wrong just because you built the bond does not mean that the bond will always stay the same. Like I said earlier the world changes, people change and therefore our bonds change. Even if we don’t realize it we change daily. So, in order to have a strong relationship/connection we have to constantly change in a positive way. That means to call them, and show them that we love them and want them to be a part of our lives. Happy New Year to all! Now go connect and reconnect those broken or weaken relationships.

God will right all wrongs

Ah, the sad realities of today! My mom called me to relay me a story from a girlfriend of hers. I will call her friend Nancy (not her real name). Nancy called up my mother today and was crying her heart out. Nancy’s mother, an 80-year-old woman (I will call her Grace) was raped by a group of African American guys. A group of them snatched her up while she was walking around the park on a foggy day. They took her to a secluded area where those animals repeatedly raped her. This happened about a month ago, but Nancy couldn’t bring herself to tell anyone. But, the mental and emotional torture of Nancy’s withering mother has eaten her up inside, turning her into a shell of her former self. After she could internalize it no longer, she had to tell someone, and she felt that my mother was the most trustworthy person she knew. For this reason, I don’t know who she is either, but I kind of have an idea of who it is.

The story begins with Grace being missing for three days. Nancy and her family didn’t call the cops, because it’s an Asian thing (that is what I was told) to be “docile”. They figure she might have gone out and gotten lost so they conducted their own search for her. They separated the family into two groups, but could not find her anywhere. One group was to stay behind at home just in case she calls or comes home, and call everyone they knew. They were also responsible for making prayers and such. The other group drove around aimlessly searching for her everywhere.

Sadly, after three days, they received a called from a friend (Walter). Walter said that he was doing his usual walk that morning in the park and came across a woman who looked like a bag lady. It was Grace -- delusional, distraught, and soaking wet. Grace’s clothing was torn and tattered. Nancy and her husband went straight to Walter’s home and picked up Grace. They took her to a family doctor and had her checked out. As of today, Grace is still babbling and still in a state of extreme shock. At night time Grace has nightmares where she screams out,”Don’t rape me no please I speak no English and I am very old!” Mind you this poor old lady is about eighty-plus years old. Through her nightmares they are gathering pieces of a puzzle regarding what happened to her. Nancy’s family has not and will not ever report this. Like other horrific stories I myself know about and also have had the unfortunate pleasure of experiencing, have gone unreported. Those animals have gotten away with what I call “Murder.”

They say that justice is slow, but it always follows you.